The Talk and Practical Steps
If your aging parent can no longer safely live independently as they are, it’s time to ask them to move. You could have them move in with you, find an accessible home nearby, or even consider a community living arrangement. Change is never easy for anyone – but it’s doubly hard for older people with deep roots and a familiar routine. Your parents may not be open to the idea and require some convincing. Below, Anova Care talks about how to talk to your parents about moving closer, and the practical steps involved.
Having the Talk – Sooner Rather Than Later
Too many families only broach the subject of moving after a crisis has occurred – such as an accident, a medical emergency, or similar. Moving after such an event can be extra hard and traumatic for the seniors involved, not to mention add needlessly to the expense (hospital bills aren’t cheap). Talking to your parents about the move early gives everyone time to get used to the idea and prepare for it.
Considering a Home Repair App
For many, making small but important repairs – just as tweaking a bathroom – can be streamlined a great deal by investing in a home repair app that puts you in touch with repair experts who you can trust. For instance, if your space needs to be more accessible, some apps have options to chat with a plumber and get projects done not only quickly but reliably.
Do They Need Convincing?
Older parents will rarely move on their own volition, especially if they’re the proud and stubborn type. It’s important that you show empathy and compassion when you broach the subject – and then do some convincing. Here are some tips:
● Acknowledge the difficulty: Your parents might have to leave their “forever” home, old friends, neighborhoods, and countless memories behind. Talk about how it must be hard for them. Show them you understand by giving them a meaningful gift – like a family photo in a collage with everyone in it, maybe taken in the family home.
● Address their concerns: Your parents may be worried about losing their freedom or giving up other things. Listen to their concerns and address them (emphasize how they won’t lose any freedom). You could share practical examples of how other people benefited by moving. HomeCare magazine shares how quality of life improves after moving into an assisted living facility.
Being Gentle and Responsible
It’s important that you aren’t pushy, forceful, or controlling with your parents, even if they dig their heels in and refuse to move. Outline the possible consequences of them staying in place as gently as possible. Being seen as responsible and caring – and confident about why moving is the right move – will help you make much more headway than any other approach.
What to Talk About
Here are some important things to talk about when discussing a possible move:
● Reasons for the move: Talk about factors like your proximity, safety, lifestyle, healthcare, and everyone’s happiness.
● Living arrangement: Are they moving with you, to a home nearby, or elsewhere?
● Finances: How’s their financial situation? What’s the long-term financial plan?
● The rules: Who’s going to pay for what? Who’s going to be responsible for what? What’s everyone’s lifestyle going to look like?
● The benefits of the move: Be sure to talk about why moving is a good thing!
Adjusting Your Home
If your parents move in with you, you’ll likely have to adjust your home for their comfort and safety. Some modifications include adding night lights, handrails, slip-resistant flooring, wider pathways, wheelchair access, accessible bathrooms, an accessible kitchen, and more. Georgetown Home Care provides a list of modifications to consider. This can take a handful of weeks or a few months – starting early is a good idea.
Or Finding Accessible Housing Nearby
Having parents move in with you can be complicated and isn’t always the right move for everyone involved. It may be better to find a separate house for them nearby instead. That way, you can care for them while still maintaining your privacy. You can browse listings online and filter by house type and amenities to find something suitable for them. To make sure the house is accessible enough, you can check photos or take a 3D tour. If you’re buying a house instead of renting, leave a few weeks for the process.
Considering Smart Home Tech
Exploring smart home tech, whether your parents choose to stay in place or move, is absolutely worthwhile. Such tech offers a variety of features that can drastically reduce their workloads, help monitor their safety, and generally make their lives easier. Installation is straightforward these days. On the off-chance you or your parents have some trouble, you can conveniently consult online resources or guides for quick fixes.
Moving your parents closer to you starts with an open, honest conversation. Be understanding, emphasize the benefits, and address their concerns. Researching the practicalities of the move – whether that’s the financial arrangements or living considerations – can help you be more convincing and make it less stressful for everyone!
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